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Originally Posted by sirbruce
"Horseplay" is a commonly recognized reason for consent even when it's not explicit. People joke around. Not everyone so uptight, and I don't think a reasonable woman would feel threatened by such a grope in such a context.
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I apologize if this draws out the derail, and I understand that you're just trying to defend someone you respect. But I just have to say that I find it disturbing that you seem to imply that a woman who would mind being treated in this way is unreasonable or uptight.
It's not acceptable to spontaneously grope someone as a joke. This is especially true when they are in a public setting related to their profession, and may likely feel obligated to laugh it off and have some "boys will be boys" reaction even if they don't feel that way.
I have several guy friends who it's not unusual to find me horsing around with, they would probably find the idea of me being considered "uptight" pretty amusing. None of them would jokingly touch a woman in a sexual manner, because they would find that as disrespectful as I do. Now I don't get too upset over anything that someone says to or about me. But if any man (or woman for that matter) thought it would be a laugh riot to grab my boob, they better not be too uptight to mind the hilarious slapstick-inspired bit of comedy gold that I like to think of as "punching them in the face."
Having said that, I wouldn't condemn someone as a sexist pig over one incident. But I also wouldn't try to downplay the inappropriateness of a friend's actions just because I liked them.