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Originally Posted by DiapDealer
Everyone, everywhere needs to stop one word shorter with phrases like this. There is no "but." Every "but" is an attempt to shift some portion of blame onto victims. Whether you intended to do so or not.
"It is not your fault you were a victim."
Full. Stop.
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I’m with you in not wanting to blame victims. We do desire to empower everyone to reduce the chances of being victimized...and reduce the power we GIVE others to hurt us.
Words do hurt. There are attitudes and mindsets that can be adopted to give people tools to mitigate that hurt. Which would you rather do...wait for all the bullies in the world to become kind people...or fortify yourself such that words can indeed be “just words”.
There isn’t just one scenario nor one quick and easy solution. There are lots of scenarios and how to handle or avoid them differs.