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Originally Posted by MGlitch
1) you have stated flat out that those being picked on should not let words hurt them.
This is utter garbage, and has been dismantled here, and in countless studies. Words are capable of doing great damage, regardless of ones self confidence they are capable of getting in. Unless of course you're self confident on the edge of arrogance but at that point you've got other issues.
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Words are capable of great damage. If we help people early on not to place too much importance on what other people say, that damage can be minimized.
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2) You have stated victims of certain types should learn to avoid places and situations if they don't want to be victims.
This is literal victim blaming. It's a black and white example with nothing extra put in.
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It is also, in some situations, just plain common sense.
Not that it is your fault you were a victim, but that you can take actions to minimize your chance of becoming a victim.
If you walk into the worst part of town flashing a wad of money around you are probably going to get mugged.
Is it right that you get mugged? No it isn't.
Should you be able to walk anywhere without that risk? Yes you should.
But in the real world, some situations are more dangerous than others, and should be avoided.
There is a difference between: "It is your fault you were a victim" and: "There are things you can do to avoid becoming a victim"
In other situations, it doesn't apply at all. Sometimes you can't avoid it, and life just sucks.