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Originally Posted by pwalker8
For a librarian, your reading skills stink. I said that 90% of self defense situations are avoidable. That is completely true and not something I made up. Self defense is defending yourself from being physically attacked, not what to do if someone is mean to you in the office. It actually is rare for the vast majority of people (when was the last time you were punched or someone pulled a gun or knife on you?) and for most people happens because they were either looking for a fight or were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Self defense teaches you how to recognize that you are somewhere you shouldn't be and how to get out of the situation and hopefully how not to get in the situation in the first place.
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I'm not a librarian, Mr Reading Skills.
And I'm not talking about people being "mean to you in the office" (where the hell did you get that??)
I said that if you are teaching self-defence to women and children, focusing on stranger attacks in public is very much the wrong approach. And I am talking about physical violence, of which sexual assault is one of the primary forms for these classes of victims. I've never been punched deliberately (apart from in training). I have been sexually and indecently assaulted a number of times. Almost never by strangers in public - only once in that situation, on a bus as a child. Broad daylight. Crowded bus. Wearing jeans and a Tshirt. "Normal" looking attacker who assaulted me without warning. And this personal experience is borne out in all reputable stats. This is, overwhelmingly, the violence we experience.
Go on, ask me why I didn't report that bus assault.
The vast majority of attackers are known to the victim, and frequently either related or in positions of power over them. Your approach to "avoid the situation" would involve women and children avoiding family members, intimate partners, teachers, coaches, tutors, scout leaders, priests, etc etc etc. It makes no sense in this context at all.
Women's self-defence is a thing, but it's not primarily "stay out of dark alleys" and "avoid sketchy-looking strangers".