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Originally Posted by pwalker8
Nice straw man argument. Let me put this in nice capital letters so you can't keep pretending I'm saying something I'm not.
WE DO NOT TEACH THAT IF SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS TO YOU, YOU ARE TO BLAME. WE TEACH THAT IT PEOPLE PICK ON YOU, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT AND THEY IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THEM.
There, see. That's not so hard to understand if you stop sticking your fingers in your ears and chant "teaching methods to avoid being picked on is blaming the victim".
It's no different than teaching safe driving techniques, the safe ways to avoid getting computer viruses or any other life skill.
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Cute, now let me quote you saying you believe the reverse:
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Originally Posted by pwalker8
You miss the point of the sayings. The only person whose actions I control are my own. What someone else says only effects me if I choose to let it. Ignoring someone who is being a jerk isn't the same as giving them permission to be a jerk. My mother also use to say "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". They are two sides of the same coin.
Can words hurt? Sure, if you let them. But if they do, maybe you are better off figuring out _why_ your feelings were hurt. Do you have poor self esteem? Are you too sensitive and see insult everywhere? Do you trust and hang out with the wrong people? The two best life lessons I ever learned were don't hang out with people who like to insult other people and either be comfortable with who you are or make the effort to change what you don't like.
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Be proactive. Pay attention to your surroundings. Don't go to the wrong bars. Don't go into that dark parking lot alone. Don't walk down an empty street in a bad section of town at night. Don't be the teenager in the slasher movie.
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You might not literally say the words to them "IT'S YOUR FAULT" but you are still sending that message.
It's like how a lie through omission is still a lie, just because you haven't said something doesn't mean you aren't saying something.