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Originally Posted by MGlitch
The gaslighting and victim blaming are strong in this kind of thinking.
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In what way? How is it victim blaming to choose not to allow other people to define you? Part of the idea is that knowledge that what the other person is saying is not true. The idea isn't when someone says that you are a loser then you say "oh, well I must be a loser".
The idea is that when someone else says you are a loser, then you look at yourself, you see you are not a loser, thus the other person is full of it. It in no way gives a pass to the other person, it simply says don't let other people define you and make you feel bad about yourself. Don't give other people power over how you feel about yourself. It's the opposite of victim blaming and is absolutely the opposite of gaslighting. If the other person is acting like an ass, then they are acting like an ass and should be treated like an ass.
It's an acknowledgement that you can't live your life in your echo chamber never hearing things you don't want to hear. In the real world, you hear plenty of things you don't what to hear. But if it's not true, why allow it to effect you?