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Originally Posted by pwalker8
You miss the point of the sayings. The only person whose actions I control are my own. What someone else says only effects me if I choose to let it. Ignoring someone who is being a jerk isn't the same as giving them permission to be a jerk. My mother also use to say "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". They are two sides of the same coin.
Can words hurt? Sure, if you let them. But if they do, maybe you are better off figuring out _why_ your feelings were hurt. Do you have poor self esteem? Are you too sensitive and see insult everywhere? Do you trust and hang out with the wrong people? The two best life lessons I ever learned were don't hang out with people who like to insult other people and either be comfortable with who you are or make the effort to change what you don't like.
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The gaslighting and victim blaming are strong in this kind of thinking.