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Originally Posted by pwalker8
You miss the point of the sayings.
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No. I've missed nothing. It is you who mistakenly believe that the point of the saying can be looked at from only your side of the equation.
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Originally Posted by pwalker8
What someone else says only effects me if I choose to let it.
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Yes. And you've been indoctrinated to believe that you can't let it. Real men don't cry. Never let 'em see you sweat. Suck it up. Buck up little camper. I'm rubber and you're glue. All those fun things adults who don't really want to have to deal with messy feelings teach children to say.
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Originally Posted by pwalker8
Ignoring someone who is being a jerk isn't the same as giving them permission to be a jerk.
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Sure it is. If everyone did it, jerks would all believe they're kings of all who who ignore their transgressions and enable their bad behavior by pretending nothing is happening (unless, of course, you believe they can see just how bravely you're defying them in your own head).
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Originally Posted by pwalker8
Can words hurt? Sure, if you let them.
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Nope. It has nothing to do with "letting them." Words hurt. You can repress that hurt, or you can deal with it.
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But if they do, maybe you are better off figuring out _why_ your feelings were hurt.
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Not really rocket science. My feelings got hurt because someone made the effort to hurt my feelings. That hurt doesn't have to cripple me (or anyone), but pretending I'm invulnerable to it isn't the way to go either.
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Originally Posted by pwalker8
Do you have poor self esteem? Are you too sensitive and see insult everywhere?
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Spoken like a true man's man. Feelings are weakness. Sensitivity is bad. It's my fault the bad person was mean to me.
