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Originally Posted by Hitch
IDK, Rumple, maybe it's time to consider Beta Blockers or Xanax for your family gatherings. Or just don't GO.
I mean...your head won't explode if you blow off a family gathering. I realize that you live in the bosom of your family, and all that (I'd have melted into a puddle of angry goo if I'd done that), but ...Just Say No, as good old Nancy Reagan used to say. Don't go, don't subject yourself to it.
All the denial, by families ("oh, sure, Uncle Jerry was a child molester Pedo, and tried to get in the pants of every girl in the family, but if we don't invite him and Auntie Jo to Susie's wedding, Jo's Sister Berta will be unhappy!") is bad for your psyche. Just say no and don't go.
That's my $.02 on "how to survive family drama." Avoid it!
Hitch
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LOL. Me being a super introvert social gatherings always cause a certain amount of anxiety. However, I don't think this gathering will cause problems, because I don't think that any of my uncle's children will show up. And if they do I'll keep away from them. Luckily my cousin has set a start and end time and it doesn't last too long. It will also be fun to meet with extended family again (my father's cousins and his aunt and uncle's, who are only a couple of years older than them).
There was also talk about organizing a gathering for just the cousins, but after January's drama I don't think anyone will want to organize it. If it does happen I've already decided I'm not going. I'm not blaming my uncle's children for his behaviour. Apparently his oldest daughter can't do the same and I do blame her for her behaviour towards me and I'm not going through that again. I won't vomit out a tirade like her on the WhatsApp group, but will contact the cousin organizing it privately and explain why I'm not going. Depending who the organizer it it will be a short or a more extensive explanation.