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Originally Posted by arjaybe
BookCat, reading your post I began to wonder if you were trying to be deliberately provocative.
- people not like you are defective?
- people should take therapy to be like you?
- people not like you are not real people?
It's hard to believe that you really mean those things.
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I was not trying to be provocative, I was saying what I really think. You have very slightly misinterpreted my words.
You say that I said: "People not like me are defective." My actual words were:
". . . people who are saying that human interaction stresses them out . . . have some kind of issue, maybe an autism-spectrum problem. Humans are social animals by nature. Yes, there are many introverts. . . If you find social situations distressing then maybe therapy is needed. I'm sorry if that seems harsh, but that's how I see it. I'm trying to be helpful rather than judgemental."
This is very different. I'm pointing out that primates are gregarious by nature and tend to live in communities - look at any of the great apes - and humans generally fit this pattern. I'm not saying, "be like me" but "be a functioning human."
Your other two points: that "people should take therapy to BE LIKE ME" (my caps) and that, "people like me are not real people," are total misreadings. I never said the words "real people" this is an empty phrase which means nothing. And I certainly didn't say or imply that others should be like me. Heaven forbid! The world would be an almighty mess if everyone was like me!
4691mls: Many people in this thread have been reasonable, like you, but others have said that being spoken to, at all, in public, regardless of the nature of the approach, causes them stress. They want to go around in a bubble, unseen, unspoken to, unacknowledged. If you look back on the thread, you'll find those posts - there are many.