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Originally Posted by crich70
Indeed. I agree with Blossom. I lost my mom just over 3 months ago now (March 25th) and grief isn't something you just get over all at once. The pain of loss sneaks up on you at times, though it does hurt a bit less as time goes by. I know I still find myself learning something and thinking 'I have to tell mom about that..' and then I remember that she isn't here any longer. Support comes in many forms. A month or so after mom died the Manor (where she got care) had a memorial service for those who had passed and on July 18th our local Clinic/hospital is having one for those who have passed during this past 6 months. I think such ceremonies help as they show you that you aren't alone in grief. It is very easy to insulate yourself and think you are the only one dealing with such, and memorial services help take you out of that mindset. May God be with you in your time of grief Sirtel.
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I have those thoughts too. I've yet to realize I can't pick up the phone and call my sister either. You'll find that you are now very sensitive to things that wouldn't normally bat an eyelash at. The grief can build up to the point that a minor issue sets you off and you feel foolish later of your reaction. This is normal so be gentle to yourself. I think when loss happens our brain is wounded in a way that just like any injury we have to give it time to heal. I've gone from brain fog, to writing everything down so now I don't have brain fog because my brain isn't being overworked while it repairs itself to accept this new reality.
I agree grief can make you feel so very alone and isolated. I had my share of this since May. The nursing home rang a bell for my sister at their Memorial Day service when they were remembering all who had past that year. They have a really good chaplain there that visits with mom and I got her in therapy with a psychiatrist because she didn't just lose her daughter but her house, her way of life and pretty much everything she had but a few items.