View Single Post
Old 06-08-2018, 04:44 PM   #108
arjaybe
Wizard
arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.arjaybe ought to be getting tired of karma fortunes by now.
 
arjaybe's Avatar
 
Posts: 1,073
Karma: 12500000
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Okanagan
Device: Sony PRS-650, Kobo Clara
Quote:
Originally Posted by SleepyBob View Post
This makes zero sense, though. If someone isn't observant enough to realize that you don't want to be bothered, how can the onus be on them to be observant enough to see it's unwanted. It literally can't, because they aren't observant enough.

If someone bothers you and doesn't stop, then you need to tell them to stop, not expect that somehow they are suddenly going to become more self-aware. If it continues after that, then it's on them.
Nope. I never said they were unobservant, only that the onus is on them to be observant, a basic social skill. If they fail in that responsibility, then they can't complain if the person they are, by now, harassing responds in a way that surprises them. This was after their initial gambit, remember. I said they could be forgiven for that.

Knowing when to leave someone alone is as great a social skill as initiating contact.
arjaybe is offline   Reply With Quote