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Originally Posted by cfrizz
Then please stop insisting that those of us who don't want to be bothered by strangers be tolerant of their overly social behavior, while they shouldn't be tolerant of our not wanting to be bothered by their behavior.
This is what happens when one decides they want to play devils advocate.
The way we feel is NOT wrong, and neither you or anyone else has the right to try and make us feel that we are.
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Exactly. What's being effectively said is people must put up with intrusion - even if they have explicitly stated they don't wish to be intruded upon - just because they are in public and hence de facto open to intrusion. Taking this to the logical conclusion, it means that it becomes acceptable to harass people - which to a woman on her own is frankly extremely unpleasant at best and downright dangerous at worst.
This discussion has brought back some rather unwelcome memories for me. When I was 16, I took a Saturday job at a local supermarket. In retrospect, alarm bells should have rung when at my interview I was told they expected female staff to wear skirts - "because we like to see ladies' legs". (Mind you, this was in the antediluvian 1970s.) Later, I was working in the stock room with a male colleague and was rather startled to be grabbed and kissed without any warning and without me signalling that such behaviour would be welcome. Needless to say, that job did not last much longer.
Yes, #MeToo.