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Originally Posted by Rumpelteazer
You're right. Luckily I slept better the last two nights than I have during the last couple of weeks.
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EXCELLENT. That's good to hear. Of course, the no-vacuuming probably helps. ;-)
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Despite the fact that it'll cost him money and he hasn't got much chance to win I am afraid he'll appeal. Just the thought of going through everything again. This court case took three and a half years for it to finish. I'm not sure I can take another three and a half years.
However, I do realize it's my uncle who should be afraid. Remember the documents he only wanted to share if we paid €1500? The solicitor dealing with my grandmother's estate convinced him to share at least some of it. We got a tiny fraction and we found out a couple of things. We already knew he had let my grandmother pay for his window insurance, we also found out she paid for his and his partner's funeral insurance and he used my grandmother's bank account to buy credits for a sex dating website. He had promised more documents when he returned from his vacation, he returned over month ago and we haven't got it yet. We did send a letter to the judge overseeing his guardianship of his mother, she wanted us to sign a statement basically saying he did everything right. We won't, and explained why.
We are going to try to get all the documents and see if he committed more fraud and we will try to get all the money back. Considering the judge has also decided that everyone should pay their own legal costs (he used my grandmother's money to pay for a court case where we had summoned him personally) the money he owes the heirs has risen to at least €30000.
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The dating sex site is, forgive me, hilarious. Hard to think of a BETTER example of wastrel spending whilst being his mother's guardian. He could probably argue that she said to him, "oh, [Uncle], go ahead and use my funds to pay for your insurance," but somehow, I can't see her telling him to use her money for a Tinder site, ya know? ;-)
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No problem, it's a complicated mess. When everything is settled I'm going to insist my parents make a very clear will. I don't care what's in it, I don't necessarily want to know but it needs to be very clear.
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YES, this. I went through this the last year of my mother's life, thank GOD. It was a massive hassle, for a variety of reasons I won't discuss. It took us
months to get things rewritten and addressed, to handle things that had changed over the passage of time, and to try to get over my mother's intense desire to dead-hand everything. We only finally got them done, witnessed and notarized a mere few weeks, really, before she abruptly died. (About...10 weeks, really, but in the cosmic scope of things....) Not only that, but we redid my grandmother's, too--that would have been bad, if it had been unchanged. Wills matter, ESPECIALLY when there are numerous possible devisees or heirs, and unclear intentions.
If you can't afford legal counsel, to go LegalZoom or some other site, get a simple will, and make your intentions dead clear. That's it.
Hitch