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Originally Posted by Hitch
Rumple:
In my experience of highly-stressful familial/inheritance/fight scenarios, of which, unfortunately, I have a ton of same, it takes a while for that whole High Anxiety fight/flight response to simmer down. And you are likely having attacks because while one part of you wants, desperately, to believe that it's over, your logical brain is afraid to, and that's why you're even more stressed now.
PLUS, you are probably thinking of ways in which your losing Uncle can make life even more miserable for you. Family, right?
Congrats on the win, and give it a few days. I suspect that when your next day off is in sight, you will probably sleep like the dead. ;-)
Hitch
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You're right. Luckily I slept better the last two nights than I have during the last couple of weeks.
Despite the fact that it'll cost him money and he hasn't got much chance to win I am afraid he'll appeal. Just the thought of going through everything again. This court case took three and a half years for it to finish. I'm not sure I can take another three and a half years.
However, I do realize it's my uncle who should be afraid. Remember the documents he only wanted to share if we paid €1500? The solicitor dealing with my grandmother's estate convinced him to share at least some of it. We got a tiny fraction and we found out a couple of things. We already knew he had let my grandmother pay for his window insurance, we also found out she paid for his and his partner's funeral insurance and he used my grandmother's bank account to buy credits for a sex dating website. He had promised more documents when he returned from his vacation, he returned over month ago and we haven't got it yet. We did send a letter to the judge overseeing his guardianship of his mother, she wanted us to sign a statement basically saying he did everything right. We won't, and explained why.
We are going to try to get all the documents and see if he committed more fraud and we will try to get all the money back. Considering the judge has also decided that everyone should pay their own legal costs (he used my grandmother's money to pay for a court case where we had summoned him personally) the money he owes the heirs has risen to at least €30000.
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Originally Posted by Cinisajoy
I didn't realize that. Your stress is now very understandable.
I thought your father owned the business outright.
So for now, just keep breathing.
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No problem, it's a complicated mess. When everything is settled I'm going to insist my parents make a very clear will. I don't care what's in it, I don't necessarily want to know but it needs to be very clear.
The exercises seem to help. So far I've also been able to hold of the muscle ache that always comes when my anxiety attack lasts long or is bad.