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Originally Posted by Cinisajoy
It was just your wording that got to me.
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Understandable; my wording may even be harsher than I intended because I'm irritated myself, seeing someone running around the house, scrounging up 20 year old tools (sometimes not working) trying to saw a board, drill a few holes, and put in a few screws.
When offering to spend a day organizing all that stuff and replacing tools that don't work properly because the batteries are 20 years old, the reply is akin to: "Why? Everything's just fine."
THAT is what irritates me most. He
has gobs and gobs of money, and he
has the skills because he was a construction worker for 25 years and built entire houses from scratch. After replacing all that old crap and organizing it, something like mounting a bracket wouldn't take him more than 20-30 minutes, but he _just doesn't care_.
Same with hearing loss. He has hearing loss related to old age. Nothing major. Instead of going for a good hearing aid (reimbursed for 75% or so by his insurance; and the rest is peanuts, compared to his savings), he just doesn't care; in his view, everybody just doesn't talk loud enough.
(Note that he actually did manage to mount that bracket, but it didn't work because the swirls on the wall are, at some points, deeper than the bracket is thick, so I can't get the AP to rotate into place.)
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I guess part of your post that irritated me was the fact that my 98 year old aunt who was still doing pretty much everything she ever did except cooking and the dishes (she made her daughter start doing that about 10 years ago) died earlier today.
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Sorry to hear that. Good luck with that loss.
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Anyway, good luck with dad, it sounds like a bit of depression to me. How long has your mom been gone?
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She's been gone (as in divorced, not dead) for 20 years almost to the date.
As far as I can see it's not a depression; it's more like an "I don't need to do anything because I'm old now (and thus have deserved not to do anything anymore), and if you don't like it, too bad for you"-attitude.