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Originally Posted by crich70
Well she's currently still at the Manor (which takes most of her monthly disability check) and of course I don't have a big income either. Plus we are going to go through premarital counselling with our Pastor. Lisa is divorced. I've never been married. As for family health problems it's in God's hands. We will find out soon enough how mom is and her mom is at Pleasant View nursing home. The poor lady has dementia. She just turned 63 so the future is uncertain there. Mom of course is 74 so that presents a set of challenges for her in addition to her lung cancer problems.
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Oh hun, you misunderstood me. I meant if family and friends are healthy, don't let them take up all your time. If they aren't healthy at least try to get some rest on occasion.
Now as to the money factor, when we got married he was making $8 an hour with at least $50 or $100 coming out every week to repay a pretty good size loan. I have never asked exactly how much because it was at the time none of my business. I also didn't want to inadvertently upset him by asking. I do know it was somewhere between 5 and 10 thousand.
In all honesty, we were both starting over with pretty much nothing.
So don't let a lack of money stand in your way.
As to premarital counseling: no church and no money so no counseling.
All our friends and family guessed we might last 6 months. As of this writing it has been 26 years, 8 months and 6 days.
We have battled alcoholism, lost too many people, moves, job changes, quit smoking, and numerous other things.
So if we can do it, you can do it.
The thing is we talk about everything.
We have both done things that were fairly uncomfortable to one of us but that is part of life. It was done for the other person.
Just keep talking to each other and everything else should work out.