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Originally Posted by Katsunami
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Dating a woman that doesn't do hints is *hard*. Never thought I'd ever say that.
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I did--for about 10 seconds--consider warning you, when that arose (wasn't that about...2 years back? The "kind of woman I want" discussion?), that you might learn that that's not what you wanted. You wanted what you
imagined that would be like. But...not what it's
actually like.
If you can't read someone, and they don't do hints...you're left flailing around, trying to figure out what that person might like/want/think. It's a bit of a black hole, really. Trying to hit a bullseye on a target without any rings, and so forth.
I think it's harder for you (no offense) because you're male. The data shows that men are sorta, well, handicapped at reading the myriad levels of non-verbal communication that women read routinely. The "no hints" thing would likely be easier for you if you were gay, just because (in the case of either gender, I mean), you're more likely to be able to guess what a man is thinking, than a woman, right? And vice-versa.
(My husband occasionally complains about this. He asks me what I want for [birthday, Xmas, etc.], and I'll say "nothing." But the thing is, when people ask me, and that's what I say,
that's what I mean. For one thing, other than work stuff, I'm not acquisitive. Secondly, usually, if I want something and I can afford it, I'll get it. If I can't--it's too expensive for someone else to give as a gift. Perhaps she's the same way????)
I think you're stuck asking, to be plebian about it. If you can't read her non-verbals (and perhaps she isn't giving off any!!), then...I think you gotta just bite the bullet and ask.
(And Dennis is dead on with his comments. As usual, cheeky smart bugger.)
(Doubt that helps, but...)
Hitch