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Originally Posted by crich70
Perhaps it would but I meant a thread just for members. The light a virtual candle thread has postings about anyone of note who has passed. I am having trouble with the sense of your 2nd point. Are you referring to the departed themselves or their families? In any case if you mean their families they aren't likely to make it known in the first place if their family member has passed if they don't want it known I would think. Though in such cases the families wishes should be respected certainly.
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On the second note, I would be more worried about side people rather than the family.
Not everyone knows a family wishes.
Let me give you an example. A guy dies and his family and friends (at the time know about it), there is no public notice anywhere. I don't know if the family didn't want It known (for what might crawl out of the woodwork) or if his son was cheap, mad at his father or was honoring family wishes.
A few years later, I run across a woman that knew the guy. I didn't know what had happened to the guy since I hadn't talked to him since we had some words about where he should keep his girls. Wasn't concerned.
Anyway this woman knew both me and the guy had been together briefly in the mid 80's. She very promptly told me about him passing away when I saw her in the 2000's.
One: I didn't find it particularly appropriate (though I figured he was dead due to some choices he made).
Two: it was very awkward. But that had more to do with who else heard the conversation.
Note: this would have been a very side person in his life and would not have been privileged to family secrets. Note: I didn't even know the woman knew me or knew of me when I met her the day she told me.
Oh: she knew my husband or knew of him back in the day too.
And neither one of us could even remember her.
That is who I am talking about. Someone that doesn't know the back story.