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Originally Posted by badgoodDeb
She's a no-frills, introvert, plain speaking person. Just tell her the truth. "The restaurant has changed since I was last there. It's now a homongously expensive, really fancy place. Where else would you like to try?" Or, "Let's try this one instead."
Us introverted, plain speaking types probably don't even LIKE really fancy-schmancy restaurants.
Just tell her.
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I decided as much and see where we end up eating
That's why I removed the rant.
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Originally Posted by issybird
Absolutely.
Moreover, put yourself in her position. An overly fancy and expensive restaurant for a first date puts too much pressure on her, too. And you're risking sending the wrong message about your own expectations.
It happens. Easily explained and you'll be past it in minutes.
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Definitely. My expectations are to have some fun, not try to fit in among people who probably earn like ten times my salary.
My dad, who lives near the place, told me it wouldn't be a good idea to go there. He passes the restaurant when going out for groceries. He says the parking is always full of big Mercedes's, BWM's, huge Volvo's, and the occasional sports car.
Eh... no. I can handle quite some stuff from McDonald's up to a fairly expensive venue, but this is out of my league and intentions. (Not even financially necessarily, but more with regard to atmosphere and ambiance.)
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Originally Posted by badgoodDeb
And you risk sending the wrong message about your own general standard of living. ("This dump? Oh, I'm slumming when I go to this restaurant.") Talk to the lady, or the whole relationship will never stand a chance!
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True; as said above, I decided to do so.
To be honest, I just feel like a dumb ***** for suggesting that restaurant before first checking it. But what can you do? I'm not going to check restaurant prices in the middle of a conversation
(Another plus point. She doesn't seem to be married to her phone. Yay!)