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Originally Posted by Tarana
First, so sorry for your loss Dennis. It is sometimes crushing to learn the death of a loved one, however far away in time and distance. Finding out via the internet is often harder because you have nobody to respond to - the funeral is long over. Contacting the family? For what? Just be assured that there are others with similar experiences, and I think you are doing the right thing - listening to something to memorialize your feelings and remembrances rather than doing something to forget.
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While I met the family, it was decades ago, and the one I wouldn't mind contacting was Amy's younger sister Kathy, who visited Amy in NYC at one point. Amy said she liked me a lot, and I wouldn't mind learning how her life had progressed. It was a family of over-achievers, and I suspect the answer was very well. I was impressed by her, and wished her the best.
Other folks who knew both of us at the time are scattered and I'm mostly out of touch. I did get to be the bearer of bad news for another old friend who knew her back when. He wanted to marry her. I considered that unlikely, if for no other reason than her family being Roman Catholic and him being a Jew. (Amy was very lapsed Catholic whose personal spirituality was pagan. The family would accept him as her friend, but would be unlikely to accept the idea of marrying him.) He said "I wanted to marry her!" I said "So did I." I didn't try to tell him that at one point, she and I were everything
but married.
And the last thing I want to do is forget. The memories are all I have left.
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Dennis