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Originally Posted by Hitch
No, no. It's not a guy thing. Not ONLY.
I'm the same way. I absolutely, positively forbade my family members from visiting me during my last surgery. ABSOLUTELY. It's absurd. NOBODY wants to be visited in the damn hospital.
My spouse had to be there, only because they were doing something and checking something (biopsy on some tissue), and it was quite possible that a decision may have been needed, about, well, something. (I know...).
Otherwise, I would have told him not to come until it was time to pick me up, also. In fact, the moment I was fairly compos mentis (no cracks, guys) in the recovery room, I sent him home. I can't ABIDE family members struggling to find stuff to say, yadda, in a hospital. Plus, I usually want to sleep and just feel drowsy and all that, not trying to stay awake and worrying about whether or not I look like my Banshee sisters will be arriving momentarily.
If you will be making life/death decisions, or deciding if procedure X is to be done "while they're in there," that's one thing. Otherwise, I'm with the "don't come with" group.
Hitch
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If he was having this done here, I would wait with him and if he wanted me to go home, I would. Because I live close by and can get there if I am needed. I did that when he had surgery to repair a broken knuckle. I even let him buy greasy Chinese food on the way home even though I knew he would totally throw it up a few hours later. We were dating and he refused to believe me but learned his lesson.
But I am not going to be on the East Coast while he is in Minnesota having surgery and recovering. Not happening. Nope. No way in hell. There is the slim possibility that something goes wrong, miniscule actually, but it is possible. I bring my IPad and headsets. If he wants to talk, I'll talk. If he wants to sleep, I'll entertain myself. And I know that my MIL would like to have someone to go out and get lunch with for a few days.
The game plan when Little Man was born was for Hubby to stay at the hospital until the end of visiting hours and go home and sleep there so he could get in some good nights sleep before the year of sleep deprivation. That plan was ruined by a storm that knocked out all power in the region for four days so he stayed with me and Little Man at night because the hospital had power.
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Originally Posted by poohbear_nc
Started our hurricane preparation today -- bottled water, food that doesn't need to be cooked, cat litter, cat food ..... sigh ...  |
Yeah, we are cancelling our camping trip this weekend and staying at home.