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Originally Posted by CRussel
@ProfCrash: -- it's a "guy thing". Stupid, counterproductive, and annoying, like most guy things. "he doesn't want to be an inconvenience". It would be a LOT more inconvenient if something happened and you need to arrange for Little Man and hit the road in a hurry. Plus hospital patients are MUCH better served if they have an advocate with them. Surgery patients are not in a condition to fend for themselves, and can't adequately express problems.
Vent here. Best you can do. And be there for him.
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No, no. It's not a guy thing. Not ONLY.
I'm the same way. I absolutely, positively forbade my family members from visiting me during my last surgery. ABSOLUTELY. It's absurd. NOBODY wants to be visited in the damn hospital.
My spouse had to be there, only because they were doing something and checking something (biopsy on some tissue), and it was quite possible that a decision may have been needed, about, well, something. (I know...).
Otherwise, I would have told him not to come until it was time to pick me up, also. In fact, the moment I was fairly compos mentis (no cracks, guys) in the recovery room, I sent him home. I can't ABIDE family members struggling to find stuff to say, yadda, in a hospital. Plus, I usually want to sleep and just feel drowsy and all that, not trying to stay awake and worrying about whether or not I look like my Banshee sisters will be arriving momentarily.
If you will be making life/death decisions, or deciding if procedure X is to be done "while they're in there," that's one thing. Otherwise, I'm with the "don't come with" group.
Hitch