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Originally Posted by Katsunami
Of course I don't know how strong you are with regard to saying 'no' to people, even if they are family or friends. Probably you aren't too good (or you wouldn't write a post like this), but I'm a grandmaster at it.
I'm very flexible, and I accept quite a lot from a lot of people (family, friends and even strangers), I don't easily get upset or angered. Most of the time, I actually come across as a push-over, and people have told me in the past that 'I should be more assertive.' I don't; I'm just extremely tolerant.
However, if I draw a line in the sand and I tell you not to cross it, you better don't. If you do... bad things will happen.
If I were you, I would tell them to stop it, and I mean *right now*. I would go as far as telling them you'd move to a different part of the country, change your phone number, and never ever contact them again, and not tell them were you are.
I'm not bluffing. I mean it, I would say that, and I'd actually *DO* it.
The only thing I can say is that in your case, I'd have a talk with your husband and seriously consider cutting all ties with said family members; even if they're your mother and sister. I would, but I can understand that not everybody can be that rational. It's a "it's still family / mother / a sister..." thought that prevents it for many people.
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You can't do that when you have to rely on them. I don't drive and they have help many times and still are financially. It's frustrating but right now I have to endure it. They are the most generous people but yes it comes with lots of ties. I really shouldn't complain but it does get frustrating at times.
Hubby is just starting to work. He's also going to try a weekend job making pizza.
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