[Katsunami]

Originally Posted by Blossom

That's how it is here. I have no say on anything. My word isn't accepted. I am told how to live my life, what to eat, how to dress, what to do, what to buy. My mom and sister are manipulative busybodies. I'm constantly ask questions that are none of their business. I'm never asked what I want I just have stuff thrust at me then they get upset when I tell them I don't want it.

Of course I don't know how strong you are with regard to saying 'no' to people, even if they are family or friends. Probably you aren't too good (or you wouldn't write a post like this), but I'm a grandmaster at it.

I'm very flexible, and I accept quite a lot from a lot of people (family, friends and even strangers), I don't easily get upset or angered. Most of the time, I actually come across as a push-over, and people have told me in the past that 'I should be more assertive.' I don't; I'm just extremely tolerant.

However, if I draw a line in the sand and I tell you not to cross it, you better don't. If you do... bad things will happen.

You can't sidetracked them either when they are interrogating something hubby doesn't understand. You can't change the subject with them they are like a dog going after a meaty bone. It was like this when I left home 15 years ago. Manipulative, emotional abuse. Only then I was stuck living with them and it was much much worse. Now I live 30 minutes from them. I had hoped things would change coming back but it hasn't. Mom calls everyday sometimes several. If I don't answer she freaks thinking something is wrong and then my sister calls over and over till I answer.

If I were you, I would tell them to stop it, and I mean *right now*. I would go as far as telling them you'd move to a different part of the country, change your phone number, and never ever contact them again, and not tell them were you are.

I'm not bluffing. I mean it, I would say that, and I'd actually *DO* it.

The only thing I can control is not going anywhere with them unless it's absolutely necessary. I swore I'd never come back here to this mess. Now here I am and poor hubby right in the middle of it.

The only thing I can say is that in your case, I'd have a talk with your husband and seriously consider cutting all ties with said family members; even if they're your mother and sister. I would, but I can understand that not everybody can be that rational. It's a "it's still family / mother / a sister..." thought that prevents it for many people.