Blossom, I hope things improve for you. It's terrible to feel like you are trapped in a situation and can't improve it just by your own efforts.
I also tend to hide my romance addiction because I hate being put on the defensive about my reading choices. I'm in a bookclub that reads mainly LitFic or Nonfiction so whenever anyone asks me what I'm reading, i always have a couple of mainstream books that I can mention. Either that or I tell them I love vampires and werewolves and start talking about UF that I love. Why is it that no one makes fun of you for reading about vampires, yet everyone mocks romance?