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I'm having a sneaky suspicion that the proverbial poop will hit the fan in the family.
This Sunday we'll be scattering the ashes of my grandmother. On Monday 11.30pm I got a private message on Facebook from one the cousins if my uncle knows about Sunday. It wasn't the same cousin as last month, but her older sister. My parents and I had agreed that any such questions they would handle, and my father wanted to first confer with my aunt.
My father wrote an email telling my cousin that on August 1 an email had been send to my uncle telling him the scattering would be happening (no date was known then) and that if he wanted to attend he should let us know, so that the people who want to avoid him can do so. He never replied, so we assumed that either he wasn't interested. The email was send on Tuesday evening. Yesterday morning my cousin posted on the family message group about her father and minutes later that she had received my father's email. Then nothing.
Until this morning. At about 6am I used the toilet and when I got back both my tablet and phone chimed that there was a PM on Facebook. I decided to let it wait until after my alarm went off, I suspected that I wouldn't be able to sleep after reading a message. Fifteen minutes later I realized that I wouldn't sleep if I didn't read it, either. But when I checked there was no message. So either Facebook made a mistake or the message was deleted by its poster.
To be honest I'm very close in just not going. During the lunch after my grandmother's funeral all the grandchildren agreed we shouldn't let the Family Thing get between us, but my uncle's kids don't really act that way. If we hear before hand that my uncle will be attending I won't. If he just shows up I'll go wait in the car.
I know I shouldn't let him get to me, but since I had to organize this in early August I've been on the brink of an anxiety attack and the last couple of days I'm having extreme heartburn problem. And I know that if I have to be around my uncle it'll only get worse.
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