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Originally Posted by crich70
I imagine that same problem affects anyone who doesn't suffer from a given problem. The person who doesn't have problem x may study it but even the most careful study of a problem isn't quite the same as having it. Certainly that is the case with Diabetes. Anyone can read about low blood sugar etc. but if you don't have to live with it day in and day out you can't really understand it like an actual diabetic does. I know I can understand that letters are switched around or backwards for a person who is dyslexic but I can't understand the problem like someone who has it does.
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Dyslexia is more than just words moving on a page. When most hear Dyslexia that's what comes to mind but it really is a whole way of how our brain works.
I read an excellent article last year that really helped me. In the article a mother of a dyslexic girl gave an example of how we think.
Mom told her daughter to clean the kitchen as she was leaving. The little girl looked at the kitchen. She didn't understand what her mom wanted. Her mom returned angry and she asked her daughter why she hadn't cleaned the kitchen. The little girl told her mom. "You didn't tell me what to clean!" and she burst into tears. The Mom then had a light bulb go off. She then gave her daughter precise instructions. She told her to sweep the floors, wipe the counters, do the dishes and wipe out the microwave. The little girl went and did it straight away. Now the next time she is told to clean the kitchen she will do the same unless her mom gives her a different list to follow. This is how a dyslexic thinks. We need precise instructions and we will ask for them if we don't get them.
Tutorials are wonderful because they take the guess work out of how to for us.
I can so relate to my early years in marriage to this little girl. My husband was so frustrated with my questions he always snapped. "Just figured it out "yourself." He gets frustrated when what solution I come up with isn't the common one because I don't think like he does. Luckily I have Google who helps and YouTube.
When I showed him the article he refused to believe it anything but laziness or lack of motivation on the little girls part. He also refuses to accept my differences as anything but illiteracy or laziness.
I use spell checkers and Alexa to make sure everything is spelled correctly. I've been communicating by typing on the internet since 1995 but it's a minute by minute struggle even to this day. If I get tired, stressed or excited the Dyslexia really kicks in. I suddenly have to slow down to complete a thought that is coherent enough for everyone to understand as I type it out then read it over and over till it makes sense. Many times I have to rearrange what I wrote because it comes out backwards. Instead of point a,b,c..... It's written as point d,c,a. Sometimes I'll just scrap the post and start over trying to get the sequence right.
I may come back later and proof read and see some serious mistakes and have to edit because my brain refuses to see words correctly at the moment.
This is just in typing! My actually speech I can mispronounce words or forget how to say them correctly. My husband will constantly correct me. He will ask me how is the word spelled? What is the root word? Many times my mind refuses to see the word it's just blank. I then fumble mispronouncing the word till I get lucky and say it right and he leaves me alone.
It's not that I haven't learned them correctly. it's just at times my brain takes a vacation on me and I struggle with spelling, grammar, pronouncing words....etc
Then there is left and right and coordination that is off. I'm ashamed to say I didn't learn to tie a bow till I was 21. I tied my shoe with bunny ears and many had tried to show me. It was my husband on our second date who taught me as many had tried but they never broke it down the way he did without confusing me. We won't talk about my driving and how many times I confused the gas pedal for the brake!
Many dyslexics do learn to drive and do it well but for some like myself it's not worth someone's life because right becomes left.
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