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Originally Posted by Rumpelteazer
All true. But when you're accused of lying and cheating it also becomes my own problem. Interestingly in her last message she writes that it's up to my father and aunt (but not her father!) to keep us out of the Family Thing. She conveniently forgets that her father not only wants to take away my parent's home and business, but also mine.
It would have been a better idea for one of the cousins from my aunt's side of the family to organize this since they're more neutral.
My aunt is going to write an email to my uncle informing him about the plans. Chances are he will insist in coming and changing what we've planned. One thing is for sure, if he is going to be in the restaurant I won't. I know I shouldn't let him get to me, but I don't feel like I can share a table and be civil, let alone nice, to him. And it would cause me a lot of stress. Everyone else can go in if they want to, but I'll find a nice bench outside (or sit in the car if it's raining) and wait for everybody be done.
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I understand that one completely.
I only managed to hurt one uncle's feelings, one cousin's feelings and 3 aunts got their panties sort of twisted when my father died.
Note:he was the first of 11 to pass on.
The uncle and the cousin were because I asked another aunt to please loan me her house for the luncheon rather than using my uncle's house. My dad had been living with that uncle. His living room was about 8 feet by 10 feet if that big and I was looking at more than 30 people and 2 wheelchairs.
Didn't use my house for those same two reasons. Note: The cousin that was upset was not that uncle's child. His kids understood.
Now mind you I was 31 when my dad died. My parents had been divorced for 18 years. (Thank God). My mom did not attend the funeral or even come into town. The three aunts thought my mom should have been there for us "kids". (My brother was 27.)
Not a one of them asked if me or my brother had talked to mom about it.
They hadn't talked in nearly a decade and before that it wasn't friendly between them.
Besides dad wouldn't have wanted her there.
Yes, mom had offered to come out if we needed her.
Anyway long story short: your grandmother knew you loved her and you did what you thought was best.