Okay, that's embarrassing... You were right: When I just looked into my personal.ini it wasn't there. So I copied
replace_br_with_p: true into my personal.ini. I closed it, opened it again because I was not sure if I might have closed the settings by escape instead of clicking ok. And it was there. Then I deleted and re-downloaded the fic. I opened the ebook, again it had the odd spacing. I went back to my personal.ini - and the r
eplace_br_with_p: true line was gone.
I closed and restarted calibre. Added the setting once more, restarted, and re-downloaded the story again. It worked. Thank you.
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I don't want to spam the forum, so I'll add this here, too. Sorry for being such a bother.
The replace_metadata is not working well for this story and I can't figure out what the problem is.
While it does change
Canon Snape and
Injured Snape correctly it doesn't work with
Depressed Snape, Colleague Snape and Harry, Snape Equal status to Harry.
I tried using category instead of genre, but that didn't help either. The rest is the same as in the personal.ini above.
Thank you for having a look.