KK:
You do realize, don't you, that this line:
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Originally Posted by kindlekitten
Ok, so my Dad passed 4 years ago in a very horribly orchestrated mess that my mom put together.
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Makes it sound like your Mum offed your Dad, right? ;-)
Moving along...
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She turned on me, had my sister turn on me and by the time my kids got there had filled their heads full of nonsense as well. After I had returned home and the estate was being probated, she tried to manipulate me into signing my share over to her and I refused. She once again manipulated my kids and got them angry at me. But for the huge cancer deal that I notified her about we haven't spoken since. I have however, gifted at every Christmas, birthday and mothers day. I've never had a word of thanks. I'm seriously considering sending a copy of "Mommy Dearest" for this mother's day. I could go for stinky fish, dead flowers, a broken small appliance. ... thoughts?
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Screw it. Easier said than done, sure, but simply STOP. Don't send her anything. (I'm assuming that in addition to the "nary a word of thanks," she's not sending YOU anything for Birthdays, Xmas, etc.?) If she's not sending you ANYTHING, in addition to the lack of graciousness, why send her anything at all? I think a loud emptiness is more eloquent than stinky fish, smelly Limburgher or rotting corpses of any kind. Why work yourself up? if you send her something rotten, in all senses of the word, and she doesn't respond, won't it upset you more? Won't you then feel compelled to find out HOW she took it? You're just buying in to the behavior. I say, ignore her. I have family that is like this, and not talking to them is the only peace of mind. IMHO.
Hitch