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Originally Posted by saoir
I was confused as to whether they would use the word gay first because of the way we, society, tends to think ...
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Generally no, because despite what the general public and popular media sometimes seem to think*, "gay" and "bisexual" are not at all the same thing, especially not for someone who's come to terms with being bisexual and genuinely being attracted to and acting on attractions to both sexes, and no longer in the occasional "experimenting/deciding" phase where they're still figuring themselves out and possibly using the label for convenience when trying to explain stuff to others.
(I happen to be bisexual. And thereby agree with crich70's suggestion of phrasing as one of the most likely. But I'm not a mature woman of 39 among supportive professional colleagues, so YMMV.)
* When they bother to acknowledge that non-monosexual attraction is A Thing™ at all, and not some kind of code-word for "watch sum hot 2 girl action! and they'll do it in a 3-way with you too, later!", or "transitioning from boy/girlfriend to girl/boyfriend exclusively in the future". Bisexuals exist, dammit!