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Originally Posted by Katsunami
The only thing I can say is: believe it. I've heard more than one very angry conversation of people who thought they were alone enough (on the other side of a flimsy condo wall), on phones in coffee breaks and even in public transport. Imagine hearing something like this:
"So why can't I replace that laptop?"
1. ...
"Next month it's 7 years old and too slow for what I use it for."
2. ....
"In that case, it might be another 30 years!"
3. ....
"WE GOT OVER €20K IN THE BANK YOU.... <strangled noise> !!!"
I think most people would fill in the gaps like this:
1. But you just got it.
2. But it's not broken yet.
3. We can't afford it right now.
(Or I'm hearing the other side. Many people here don't find it a problem to 'discuss' domestic problems in public transport, and not only about money....)
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You are right, there are relationships like this. Generally in my experience, one person is a spendthrift and the other was not so much.
I have had a business relationship where my partner wanted to use the tax money we had set aside to buy something he wanted. I was not against the purchase, but against the timing. The taxes were due in two months.
His position was that we could easily save the money in that time. My position was we should save the money and make the purchase. Now this was not the first time he wanted to use the tax money for a non necessity and always it was prefaced with we have the money in the bank, lets buy...
But I don't think this had anything to do with gender. I have seen many relationships break up because one person wanted some security or both were saving for a down payment for a car/house etc. One was happy to save a bit, or even begrudged the other person coffee money, while the other could not seem to be able to stand seeing unspent money while there was beer to be drunk, or a new dress to buy. Either gender can be of either persuasion in my experience. When two people are at opposite ends of the spectrum, it can get ugly.
Helen