[Hitch]

Originally Posted by speakingtohe

I think it is foolish to prejudge people by their ethnic origins.

Yeah, I'm not going there, not touching that one. I've worked in EUR, worked on major hotels with scads of Japanese people, worked with US citizens, worked with Canadians, and haven't found much difference, really. People are people. I won't speak to the several couples I know in which older, more-successful men have married younger, Asian brides, because I'm devoutly hoping it's just an accidental stereotype. {shrug}.

It takes two to tango and if one person is very dominantly in charge,except in rare cases it is because the other person has allowed it and possibly even encouraged it.

Of course sufficient funds do help in making life smoother, but I have seen a lot of miserable wealthy people too.

Helen

Agreed--money doesn't solve everything, but serious financial imbalances can certainly make someone who is domineering to start (not talking gender here) even more so.

@katsunami:

And THAT is what I am seeing A LOT: men calling their wife "The Boss" or "The Accountant" exactly because of this point.

Quite bluntly, I think you are utterly misconstruing what you're seeing. I know of many, many men (I know more men than women; it's just a business thing) who speak pretty candidly to their female colleagues in ways that they never would to their male friends, who've told me that having "the old ball and chain" as a convenient excuse to NOT do something worked for them. I also know several millionaires who expressly delegate all their personal expenditure and bookkeeping (stocks, bonds, and pocket money) to their wives, specifically so they won't go out and blow the money.

I've known many men who simply can't hold on to money. Is it a chromosome thing? Hell if I know. But lots of women are security-minded, in a way that men (generally) aren't. It's evolutionary biology, really.

And, before this blows up: yes, I know I just spoke in broad, ridiculous generalities, and I loathe that my own self. But for every stereotypical gold-digger trophy wife out there, there's a guy that can't hold on to $50 in his pocket. As Helen said: two to tango.

And, seriously: do you really, really think that a MAN you know is going to publicly admit that his wife "won't let him" buy something, unless he was completely in accord with it? REALLY???? That he's so you-know-what-whipped that he can't spend 300EU from a $30K account? Tell his buddies he's on an allowance, if he's the breadwinner, in some unwilling fashion? He's that much of a...what would that be? What's the opposite of an Alpha male? An Omega male? Horseradish. Utter horseradish. NEVAH happened. Nooooo. It's contrary to every male instinct, even the least alpha. Now you're venturing into crazy-talk.

Not where I am, apparently. Over here, it seems that, if you're a woman that can call someone her boyfriend, the woman often seems to be of the opinion that said boyfriend's money and time has now become her property; even if said woman is 10 years younger and barely out of (or even still IN (!)) college. You might not believe it, but I'm not making this up.

If it's true, it's deranged. I don't know of ANY woman who would consider her "boyfriend's" property HERS. No offense, but it sounds utter bollox to me. I'm sure you believe it, and maybe you know some people who've been in cracked relationships like that, but I don't.

Hitch