No, you haven't said too much. Most people don't give a thought to what a situation like yours must really be like.
My stepdad was the primary caregiver for my mother after she became paralyzed from the waist down due to cancer. It takes an extraordinarily loving and generous person to take on that role full-time. He took on the role willingly and always said that he didn't mind doing it because he loved her, and that she would have done the same thing for him if the situations had been reversed.
I did backup care-giving work when he had to go out to various functions (to which my mom made him go because she didn't want him to become isolated from friends and the outside world) and I have to say, as much as I loved her, I seriously don't know if I could have been as selfless as he was with her and devoted myself to her care 24/7; it just hurt too much to see my formerly strong and capable mom being so dependent upon others for the most personal of services and so limited in her enjoyment of life because of her physical restrictions. It's painful to admit that, because I view it as a flaw within myself, but I just don't think my nature is as emotionally-giving or as selfless as his is.
Your wife is very lucky to have you, and never feel guilty about her condition. It is what it is, and her life is better for having you in it.
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