Hi all. Interesting perspectives all round
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Originally Posted by Salgueiros
And what kind of guilt do you feel? Are you responsible for her condition? Why is it more guilty to ask her for something than to ask to another wife that was not disabled had you had one?
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I know i am not responsible for my wife's condition, but you would need to be a full time carer over a long period to understand what we feel.
I personally know of carers that cannot handle it and have chosen to walk away, but many choose to accept the role without another thought. This is the point where the person being cared for becomes the center of everything.
I worked for 40 very active years building offshore powerboats, then i stopped suddenly to look after my wife. Hmmm, no money, no mates to banter with, no daily routine, yes it's sad, but it's reality.
Even compromises are heavily biased towards the person being cared for because they simply cannot do what a 'normal' person can, and we give as much as possible to help.
Every day i feel guilty about my wife's condition. Fairy dust is just not available where i live. It's a standing joke in my house where my wife watches soaps in one room, and i read books in another (i like to read in silence).
I think I've said a bit too much. Sorry
Regards