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Originally Posted by saiyuki
Hi all. The background (to clarify my predicament), is that as a full time carer for my disabled wife, it's natural that she has priority over what others would deem a trivial matter. Limited funds aside, it's what carers do  We often find ourselves looking for ways to alleviate the guilt we feel when (yes), we do ask for something. I think you'll find most long term carers feel exactly the same way (see, i'm even doing it here  ). |
I still do not understand what has this to do with your decision to buy something you need (i assume you need it). If money is not an issue, i don't see why the guilt and why your wife should interfere with your reading habits. I also assume you do not want to read the whole day or want to read instead of doing the tasks that you used to do before or that you want to read
now while you did not read
before... so, i still do not understand your dilemma. I assume (again) your wife, since she loves you, would not like to be a burden on you so i think you should not make it worse than it is by making her the "cause" of you not "reading". I think she probably already has enough to worry about, no?
And what kind of guilt do you feel? Are you responsible for her condition? Why is it more guilty to ask her for something than to ask to another wife that was not disabled had you had one?