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So do women. I think I am a far better person at 41 then I was at 21. Well, at least very different. I am more sensitive, responsible, understanding, and less selfish. But I was who I was suppose to be at 21 (selfish, a bit snotty, a bit of a know it all, exploring the world) and I am who I am suppose to be now. But I would not trade 41 for 21.
I struggled when I turned 30. It took me a while to realize that I had always thought I would be married, have kids, and doing something very different with my life at 30 then what I was doing. Instead, I was in graduate school, learning, growing, not making any money, not dating, and no kids. Once I figured out why I was in a funk, I could look at it and go "Hey, I am not there but there is good reason for that and I am enjoying what I am doing now" and move on. But I did have to work out that I was in a different place then I had expected.
Maybe ask her where she thought she would be at 41 and see if that helps her.
My Mother has also started talking to me about premenapause and all the emotional and physiological fun that brings.
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