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Originally Posted by FizzyWater
It's nice for folks who are raised this way and it holds true.
But that really doesn't hold true for everyone.
My dad's wife is just that...she's not been and never has been my "mother". Same for my mom's late husband. Might have been different if I'd ever lived with either of them, but to me it's just not the same.
And when my folks divorced, my dad's big-close-spend-every-holiday-together dropped up like hot potatoes.
So "family" to me has come to mean other things - it's the people in my life that really did stick by me no matter what. Has nothing to do with blood or legal papers.
I can understand there being all kinds of reasons for not wanting to claim a relationship. What I don't understand is why she'd choose to lie about something that's easy to disprove. It just makes her look catty. She could have said something polite without having to gush over it.
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My dad has never been there for me so I understand. In fact when he left mom when I was 16 we all celebrated. The abuse had gotten really bad so we were happy he moved out. I didn't have a happy childhood. I love My mom but she's never been sane. The term overprotective is mild here. I wasn't allowed out of her sight and she sabotaged any relationship I tried to have outside of family. I left home at 21 and moved in with my boyfriend now husband who I met online which was the one place she did not follow me.
It has taken me years to work through the abuse and I talk to my mom still every few days and on Facebook but there's no way I could ever go back there. Dad now keeps in touch a few times a year but I know neither have ever changed.
Still they are the only parents I've got so I try my best to keep in contact and we get along fine as long as they stay where they are. lol
Now My mother in law I've had to learn to love. She can be so mean and cruel but has began to mellow a bit after all these years still I never let my guard down not with that sharp tongue of hers.
