I'm not sure what particulars we're really disagreeing on there.
Anyway - in the end, the important thing is that it's a marvellous book. And I'm about as happy to look at it as a work of feminist literature as I am to look at it as an exploration of masculinity. One just meant more to me at the time than the other.
I haven't decided if it's my favourite of her novels, but she is a pretty big inspiration to me.