dum da dum dum dum.......sometimes you cant see the forest for the trees.... well i uninstalled my calibre. downloaded and installed 64 bit... gee, imagine that, its a lot faster. i searched for books like i did earlier and calibre found them very fast. everything is great again. i feel a donation heading your way.
SOOOOO... moral of the story must be to use the right program??
thanks for the help.