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Old 07-20-2008, 03:46 PM   #215
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Originally Posted by DMcCunney View Post
He's already stated up thread that he's perfectly willing to change, given a good reason why he should and how he'll benefit if he does.

I feel roughly the same. Try to simply tell me what to do, and I may say "Who the <bleep> are you to tell me that? No!".

Put it to me as "I think you should consider doing it this way. Here's why I think so, and what you'll get from it!", I'm perfectly happy to listen, and if it makes sense to me, I'm likely to say "You're absolutely right! That is a better alternative. Thanks for pointing it out to me!"

The carrot almost always works better than the stick, and wearing an air of moral superiority is guaranteed to rub people the wrong way, even if you are right. (And perhaps especially if you're right... )
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When I was very young, I did what I was told to do. Later in life, when someone told me to do something, I rebelled and did not do what I was told. Eventually I realized that I was being controlled in the second case as much as I was in the first case. That when I determined to make up my own mind and what anyone told me to do did not "force" me in either direction.
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