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Originally Posted by teh603
It isn't so much as the submissive calling the shots, as the submissive is supposed to let the top know IMMEDIATELY if something goes wrong.
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Well, as long as they eventually get the idea that everything's really supposed to be done for the submissive's pleasure, within their comfort zone, rather than whatever power-tripping they think is going on in the dominant's mind, which sadly seems to be what a lot of people think is the ultimate point of BDSM.
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Originally Posted by teh603
You think that's bad, you should try reading female-dominant "Femdom" erotica. Its full of worthless men, women who love to abuse (but not actually love) them, cuckolding tropes, forced gender transitions and in a few cases actual forced sex changes, and stuff that you can't possibly base a healthy relationship on.
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Hover over some of the free porn that gets into the KDP Select slushpile via the eReaderIQ listings to see the blurbs sometimes. It's mostly about humiliating and degrading unconsenting women who magically learn that they just lo-o-ove to be humiliated and degraded and that being kidnapped, roofied, and assaulted by multiple strangers out for self-gratification by treating women as sex-aid objects is the bestest experience of their lives, which they'll now spend as scantily-clad "slaves" to their always-male "master". Also very unhealthy.
Robert A. Heinlein was right: "Sex should be friendly. Otherwise, stick to mechanical utensils: it's more hygienic."
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Originally Posted by Piper_
JFTR, In FS, she had a safeword, and they spent much time going over the contract, and the need to be SSC.
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That's good to hear, although IIRC I also read about how after whatever the initial setup, the characters kind of ignored those precautions and promptly went into non-SSC territory.