Maybe iBooks is what you need, You can avoid the bookshelf look, and get a list, with categories, which seems to be taken from tags. Its not as good as Stanza, support for which is nonexistent, not just questionable, but its probably the current best of the bunch, especially for your cookbooks. Page numbering? not sure. ToC... only if the author has that encoded into the book. Don't be too quick to blame Megareader, I've used it with books with ToC and it works fine (its not my choice of reader, though)
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Apabi Reader. It manages Categories in a strange kind of way, but heres the thing, you can define a particular category and set that as active, then when you sideload, whatever you sideload will end up in that category. Its a bit mad, you'd be having to add a new one for each new set of books before you start sideloading, but it would work, and you can only view one category at a time... which will avoid huge listings. The only thing is, the categories seem to be listed not only in a popup but also across the bottom of the screen... theres an arrow to get to categories which you can't see right away but its a bit clumsy. I dont see any page numbering but that might be a feature of the book I am reading. The ToC is present and chapters are selectable. I've inserted the link above, but sadly its all in Chinese (the app is in English) and google translate isn't terribly helpful. Nor is going to the website, even its english version.
This also makes me want to look more closely at iBooks which can have additional sections added, apart from "Books" and "PDF". I've not looked at that closely but it could be useful.