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Originally Posted by faithbw
Bumping this up because I saw a link to an article about 50 Shades where the author, Katie Roiphe, surmises that the reason why the book is so popular is because women have a secret desire to be dominated. Basically her argument is that as women have gained more equality in the workplace, in dating, in sexual relationships and in other realms, that they feel a need to still be submissive. One way they can still be submissive is by engaging in BDSM and be submissive in the bed.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/newswee...fantasies.html |
Well I went into the article expecting yet another feminist rant against the BDSM genre - but it is actually much better written than that and there are some interesting points in it.
My main problem though is such a theory relies on the idea that a sexual kink (BDSM, Submission, or whatever) has to be caused by something. In other words, there has to be some deep and important psychological factor behind it. In articles like these it is usually
A. This whole submission desire fantasy thing, well let's not call it wrong but really we all know it just isn't what normally happens. I know my Mom and Grandma never had those thoughts!
B. Then the theory gets presented "Well I know! Women have careers now. It must be those career stresses and having to be so important and decisive at work that is leading to wanted to <whispers> submit."
C. And then the final conclusion is: Well if B is leading to A and A isn't entirely normal because my Mom and Grandma never talked about things like that......... maybe we should just accept that women in the workplace is causing that whole weird sex thing. Then the author usually backs off a bit and says "but of course this is all unproven."
I really don't buy into that, sometimes I think people just go vrroooommmmmmm because they like it.