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I think that neither complete cut off nor total freedom is good. First you need to work on your relationship with the child so at least they will consider and have at the back of their minds that what you say of dangers of internet may have some truth to it, plus develop early enough interest in other areas. To teach them morally right from morally wrong. And as a mock rule of Lenin says "believe but verify nonetheless". I would never ever allow my son (who is 4 now) later on to spend 12 hours per day in front of computer like his 12 year old half brother does. All weekend, from crawling out of bed until 9 pm with breaks for food when he keeps us waiting when everything is on the table (facebook, shooting games, whatnot). It is a computer addict in the making. Yes he was offered alternatives but it falls on deaf ears.
I do not believe (ok I don't have all the experience in the world) children are bad by nature. It is in a big part what the adults make of them in the long run, by neglect, lack of tough love and explaining the world. I sound like a frigging expert but I'm far from. It is a day to day work in which I succeed or fail but carry on.
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