I apologize ahead of time for beeing slightly off topic, but I believe it needs to be said.
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Originally Posted by anamardoll
I already said that I am hostile and provided a link to why that might be: Marginalization tends to grind one down. So, uh, you're reading me wrong.
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I respectfully have to disagree that you come over as hostile. Yes sure, depending on wether or not you take offense as the reader. I have been victim before of taking a response personally and overreacting in replying hotheaded. As a safeguard I will wait to reply to a post that I thought was personally offending. 9 out of 10 times the 2nd or 3rd time reading it made it less aggresive. Sure if you apply a yelling voice with it and spit sputtering at you and veins popping open in the face, then you should take offense. Except for one thing, and that is the beauty or in this case curse of written words, the tone of voice and mood applied to it is created in your head with your own imagination. Not with the imagination of the writer.
A simple reply like:
Oh, really? can be taken as
Oh really, you dumbass, who the hell DO YOU think you are? or as
Oh, really? That is a very interesting point of view.
Anamardoll, you are by far not as successful in offending as you think you are. After I read
honky dory I automatically applied a high pitched very badly accented and fast talking voice. As in Peanut in
Controled Chaos when he says:
thankyouforcallinnngcustomersupport. And then I remembered you mentioned the disability a long time ago. Sorry for not thinking about it 24/7, but then I don't have to since I am lucky enough not having to deal with it all the time. In university a very close friend of mine was in a wheelchair. He did not think himself disabled, he just did things differently. Of course he knew that he had limitations, he was not dumb. He just had a good attitude about it. So I cannot say that I have no experience with disabilities.