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Originally Posted by astra
I envy your attitude to life. It is easier that way. My attitude had created problems for me most of my life.
One of the artificial aspect of my attitude is that I believe it is a wrong life style to marry/divorce marry/divorce marry/divorce. I don't mean it is wrong as immoral, no. Just wrong. There is a mistake somewhere. An user error. When you choose a partner for life time, it is meant to be for life time. Not 5 years, then oops...we don't fit. Then 10 years later, oops...I did it again  Nevermind, lets try again. And so on and so forth. |
I agree with you 100%! And in a perfect world, this would be the normal situation. Unfortunately and personally, I haven't found that perfect world. Others have. No doubt about it. Lot's of folks married for 50+ years, etc. And many of them happy about it. The operative word is 'many.'
"A Marriage" By Robert Creeley 1926–2005
The first retainer
he gave to her
was a golden
wedding ring.
The second—late at night
he woke up,
leaned over on an elbow,
and kissed her.
The third and the last—
he died with
and gave up loving
and lived with her.
I couldn't live that way. Perhaps I should say, I refuse to live that way. I do agree that this is a selfish way to live, but I've only got one life, and I want to live it, "to suck the marrow of life." I've watched too many 'give up loving and live with her...'
Life is meant to be 'lived,' and not, passed through. Henry David Thoreau said; "most men lead lives of quiet desperation." I prefer to live by another of his quotes, one that I'll paraphrase here "...I wished to live deliberately, ... and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived." As I'm finding now in my latter years, life is just too short. While I wish that I hadn't made the mistakes of my youth, I'm glad that I wasn't forced to live my life enduring them, either by personal philosophy, religious convictions, or societal pressures.
... and on that note, I'm gonna have a small glass of rum!
Stitchawl