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Originally Posted by Stitchawl
I married my first wife at age 20. I didn't 'grow up' until I was 34 and married and divorced twice. Then at age 62 I became a child again.  |
I envy your attitude to life. It is easier that way. My attitude had created problems for me most of my life.
One of the artificial aspect of my attitude is that I believe it is a wrong life style to marry/divorce marry/divorce marry/divorce. I don't mean it is wrong as immoral, no. Just wrong. There is a mistake somewhere. An
user error. When you choose a partner for life time, it is meant to be for life time. Not 5 years, then oops...we don't fit. Then 10 years later, oops...I did it again
Nevermind, lets try again. And so on and so forth. It is not good for kids. I believe a child is supposed to have one mother and one father. Otherwise, it gives them bad example. They won't learn to value the sacred union of two souls.
Besides kids it is unhealthy for one's mind. One doesn't approach the union very seriously. One doesn't endeavour to choose a partner for life. One approaches marriage as ...maybe, maybe not. More like a living together for a while and see how it goes. For me marrying and committing oneself to live with another person is a lot more, and if approached seriously then it cannot change in 5 or 10 years time.
I believe that at the age of 20 we don't know ourselves. We think we do, we think we know Everything. But thinking and doing is not the same.
On the other hand, as I say I complicate life too much, when it is already too convoluted without my contribution. I don't change my mind too often, thus predictable and boring. My brother tells me: be simple. Relax. Don't think too much. Just be simple, otherwise you won't live long. I am telling you this as a doctor.
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