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Originally Posted by Sil_liS
And from that moment on she didn't make any new friends free from behavior of the old ones?
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In my case, it means that I realized loaning books and then worrying about them and how or when or if they would be returned, was something that could be damaging to a friendship, and therefore it was something I should avoid doing. It has nothing to do with the behavior of others or with my expectations of their behavior--it's my own obsessive reaction that I am controlling by changing
my own behavior. If it makes me nuts to lend a book, I won't lend the book. Simple.